STRAIGHT-JACKET

HIM: got you in my match mailbox today....you went back on? I have no idea what is going on but my advice to you is if you have an assumption about someone please check it out with them... Hope you have a great day. I am sorry you feel this way.

HER: what do you expect? I still like you and frankly don't have the enthusiasm to go on a date with anyone else right now but based on our last weekend and followup conversation I decided to keep my options open. If my assumptions are wrong then perhaps you can communicate to me how so. Btw, I was very clear about needing some reassurance. I did try to speak to you and your feedback was that I'm overthinking and making it about myself. How is that supposed to make me feel? or in other words, what advice would you give your daughter, if some guy she likes told her that when she tried to talk to him.

HIM: I would help my 11 year old daughter.. A full grown mature professional woman is another story... I was very clear regarding what I was dealing with and frankly the way you have handled this says volumes... Good luck with your search on Match.

HER: you've been looking for a way out for quite some time. 12 yo girls and professional women have alot more in common than you seem to realize. Good luck to you too.

HIM: Your assumptions are ridiculous... you are the only one looking for a way out here...Very sad how you are dealing with things.

HER: You are judging me very harshly. My assumptions are ridiculous only because some of your statements to me were ridiculous. If you really care and believe that what we have is special then let's talk about it like adults over the phone or face to face. I didn't go back on Match to hurt you ... my genes made me do it!

HIM: Sorry but I need someone who I don’t have to hand hold on days I am very busy. I need someone who will be there for me and help me be a good parent. I need someone with loads of emotional intelligence - given I have a kid. Like I said it truly freaks me out the way you have handled this whole thing. I have to go, very behind with all this fair stuff. I just cant believe you pulled this crap right now... I need to think about all this and this week I just don’t have the time. Don’t plan on seeing me while I am in NYC as I am truly bummed by this - but better to know now then later. Have a great week and weekend.